Basically the circumstances don’t change but our perception of it changes. We realize it is 99% of the problem. Once the changes happen (inside us), then things outside also changes. My story convinces of this fact. Thanks.
About a month back I went on a trip. During this time something unexpected and miraculous happened.
I have always been timid and reticent throughout my life. Never speak much to people, never been in a romantic relationship. Always been a solitary person.
On this particular day I met a girl from another country and we started talking. We felt so comfortable with each other that we stayed together for the whole day and then the next, parting only to sleep or other essentials. It was unbelievable. It felt like we knew each other from a long time.
Things moved forward and a person who had been alone, timid and anonymous all through his life fell in love. It snowballed into a physical relationship the next day and an unprotected one at that. It was unexpected, unplanned and felt pure and right at the time.
We parted on the fourth day, very sad and confused at what the future would bring. After coming back the feeling of togetherness gave way to darker feelings,
I was savaged by pangs of guilt and then fear that because of the unprotected nature of things, I may have caught something and I deserve it for what I had done. It is a sin, something wrong. It became a demon on my mind. I could neither sleep nor work.
Finally when I could bear it no longer I called Naran. He was kind and non-judgmental (my deep gratitude to him), and asked me to take the Bach Flower Remedies MIMULUS, PINE and HONEY SUCKLE.
I began taking the pills as instructed and after a few days my whole mood changed. It was amazing.
I realized that I was operating from a position of fear, guilt and anxiety – all of which were tarnishing such a beautiful gift that I had received.
In a few days she got in touch with me, against all my notions and came down and spent the rest of her trip at my city.
We got to know each other much better and we realized that we are probably are soul mates and although we are from different religions, language, nationality etc we are at peace with each other.
I am so glad I was able to rise above the narrow and diminishing feelings of fear, guilt and anxiety and stay present to the wonderful person, experience and gift that I had got. If I had continued like that I may have lost a chance to accept a great blessing in my life!
Thank you, thank you dear Naran. God bless you and the Bach flower remedies!!!
Now we continue to stay in touch over Skype and I plan to visit her in her country. Naran has asked me to take the Bach Flower Remedies SCLERANTHUS and SWEET CHESTNUT to help guide me if she is the right life partner for me. So I feel much at peace knowing I have divine guidance to prevent me from making a wrong decision.
I am so grateful for everything!!
Deep Gratitude and Warm regards
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My married life is like a hostel life. We two are living like roommates only. He is taking food, and bathing at his mother’s home, coming only in the late evening after finishing all his routines. He is not willing to go out with me.
We two are working and have problems in money matters.
In-laws also wanted to keep him with them at all times. He is the third son. All others in family are well attached to their families blessed with all boons and children. But I am living like sanyasi and no children after seven years of marriage. Not all are co-operating even for small things also. Undergoing treatment and that too not successful till date.
Born in a poor temple’s priest family and after many struggles and hard work, completed my graduation and currently earning a small income monthly. But in-laws need my money fully and problem created there and we came separately. After that also they are begging for money from my husband.
He believes them and not trusting me. I am doing and thinking everything for our welfare only. But he does not understand me. Not going out with me, but willing to go with others.
I am working from my young age. So I don’t want to quit the job and be idle. But in a joint-family I have to give all money to them.
We are separate now but my life is like a sanyasi life.
All my relations are coming with their partners. But I am going alone to all functions. He is not at all willing to come out with me.
Gone through your site and all mantras are well, good and useful.
I am a devotee of Shridi Sai Baba and I trust the reply given by you is the remedy given by Guru Shridi Sai. Jai Sairam. Sainath Maharaj Ki Jai.
Throughout our life, we hunt for love, needing caring and affection from others. When we don’t get it, we fail to understand that we are demanding more and more from a person who does not have what we want. Instead, we hang on to him.
Our demand annoys him and he distances himself away. The paradox is he married you with the intention that you would give him love. There is an unconscious decision is your life before birth that you will always give love to your husband without any expectation. Now instead of giving, you want to receive. That is why you are not getting.
Instead of trying to get, become a giver. That is why you are named Someshwari.
Give love even when there is no receiving.
Giving love without expecting to receive will make you magnanimous.
Thank every person and every event in your life daily.
Meditate on Sai Baba, reminding yourself of his anecdotes of Divine love and visualize his love filling up your heart. Then from your heart let his love flow through your hands to your husband and his family.
Do this daily. Thank them. Pray for them.
Chant the following: “CHICORY, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER FIND DIVINE LOVE WITH”.
Chant this as many times as possible.
Faith and Endurance will carry us forward.
Write this in a paper and keep it under the pillow.
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Choices, Decisions and Solutions Part VII
A Chicory person is possessive – especially with money, therefore he or she will not part with their money. They will not repay either even if they have no shortage of funds.
The common tendency is: whenever we need to spend money, we don’t feel happy. Therefore, chant or take (Bach Flower Remedy) Gentian as this will make you feel happy while giving. This is essential to restore the receiving and giving cycle.
When you receive money chant Chicory so that you will get out of the possessive mode.
When we restore the receiving and giving cycle thus, money will be flowing in to your life automatically.
All Indians have their Basic Chakras affected – thanks to their feeling of insecurity. They feel if we save, there is security. May be this is due to group consciousness. This has to be healed.