Basically the circumstances don’t change but our perception of it changes. We realize it is 99% of the problem. Once the changes happen (inside us), then things outside also changes. My story convinces of this fact. Thanks.
About a month back I went on a trip. During this time something unexpected and miraculous happened.
I have always been timid and reticent throughout my life. Never speak much to people, never been in a romantic relationship. Always been a solitary person.
On this particular day I met a girl from another country and we started talking. We felt so comfortable with each other that we stayed together for the whole day and then the next, parting only to sleep or other essentials. It was unbelievable. It felt like we knew each other from a long time.
Things moved forward and a person who had been alone, timid and anonymous all through his life fell in love. It snowballed into a physical relationship the next day and an unprotected one at that. It was unexpected, unplanned and felt pure and right at the time.
We parted on the fourth day, very sad and confused at what the future would bring. After coming back the feeling of togetherness gave way to darker feelings,
I was savaged by pangs of guilt and then fear that because of the unprotected nature of things, I may have caught something and I deserve it for what I had done. It is a sin, something wrong. It became a demon on my mind. I could neither sleep nor work.
Finally when I could bear it no longer I called Naran. He was kind and non-judgmental (my deep gratitude to him), and asked me to take the Bach Flower Remedies MIMULUS, PINE and HONEY SUCKLE.
I began taking the pills as instructed and after a few days my whole mood changed. It was amazing.
I realized that I was operating from a position of fear, guilt and anxiety – all of which were tarnishing such a beautiful gift that I had received.
In a few days she got in touch with me, against all my notions and came down and spent the rest of her trip at my city.
We got to know each other much better and we realized that we are probably are soul mates and although we are from different religions, language, nationality etc we are at peace with each other.
I am so glad I was able to rise above the narrow and diminishing feelings of fear, guilt and anxiety and stay present to the wonderful person, experience and gift that I had got. If I had continued like that I may have lost a chance to accept a great blessing in my life!
Thank you, thank you dear Naran. God bless you and the Bach flower remedies!!!
Now we continue to stay in touch over Skype and I plan to visit her in her country. Naran has asked me to take the Bach Flower Remedies SCLERANTHUS and SWEET CHESTNUT to help guide me if she is the right life partner for me. So I feel much at peace knowing I have divine guidance to prevent me from making a wrong decision.
I am so grateful for everything!!
Deep Gratitude and Warm regards
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I got married before seven years. Child birth is getting delayed because of problem with my husband. He is not having sufficient counting to give birth to a child. Undergoing treatment but thousands of obstacles in it. Taking tablet but discontinuing it. Main reason is my in-laws.
We are living separately due to money matters. I don’t want to take legal action because I am from a middle class family and having less support from my brother and father. I am earning for my livelihood but in-laws require all money from me. Hence we came separate.
After that also they require share from my husband. Spoiling my family life. Hence I am earning. Again tomorrow he is consulting a doctor. No obstacles should occur again due to relations. He is a temple priest and doing pooja to lord Vinayaga. Ganapathy is his favorite god. But still obstacles and no success.
He is worrying about parents, brother, sister and all relations but not about wife. But I want his entire love and affection because I have no support other than him.
Chant “CHICORY, WALNUT, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER DIVINE” 200 times over a glass of water and drink it.
How is your relationship with your parents? Do you really love them?
Have you ever said to your father, “My dear father I love you from my heart.” Have you ever repaid your father’s love? Did you ever communicate with him with open heart? You are his semen.
Have you ever thought of acknowledging your mother’s love and affection? She is your first nurturer? The first food in your blood is her blood. She bore and endured all the pains for your sake. The first smile – the first energy of love – you received in this world is hers. Prostrate to her. Say, “My dear mother I love you. You are the source of my love. You are the source of all my relationships.”
Do this for 21 days. If you think it uncomfortable do it mentally.
Your husband is a priest in Ganesh temple. You become like Lord Ganesha in respecting your parents.
Thanks for your prompt and good response.
Some bitter relationship I have with my father. You are right. He has given me everything. But, after my schooling I am not able to continue my studies in college due to his financial capacity. So I was compelled to work and continue my studies through correspondence.
I obeyed, worked and completed my graduation. I also learnt computer courses, typing, shorthand etc., during my working. But all the talents developed by them only because in school days we were doing milk business.
So, dual role started at the age of 12 and started earning money at that age. But I was having a feeling that they did not send me to college. But today I am a good position equal to those who are educated in college.
Today, my mother is not alive. But she has given me everything to face challenges and lead a decent life in the society. Before marriage also I was giving my earnings to my mother only. Not even a single paisa to my father. Now I realize the mistakes done by me. I will start respecting my father and get his blessings.
Please suggest remedies to get her blessings. Now my mind is clear.
I really thank you for making realize my mistakes and the way you answer is wonderful.
God has sent you to all of us like me who are suffering mentally in their hearts. You are rendering wonderful services to mankind. Thanks a million to you and your team.
Do it mentally to your mother.
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Am I talking about our beloved life travellers in people’s lives – spouse or family members, who take different avatars in different times of our life? No, I am talking about the Bach Flower Remedies here.
Opposite Poles attract each other
Let me share my experiences here. I am a typical, typical Impatiens (Bach Flower Remedy) type. For that matter, all the male members of my family are impatient. So we end up meeting Scleranthus-type personalities. I thought so and believed so.
In this regard, it is not uncommon for me to address my close friends and my too good colleagues as Scleranthus. Surprisingly, one day Naran prescribed me Scleranthus. In addition, he told me that I need to take it for at least 6 months.
After one year, I was shocked to realize that I need to continue to take it for six more months, as Scleranthus-types change slowly (no doubt as Scleranthus is prescribed for procrastinating types).
Thus, when an Impatiens attracts Scleranthus, a Centaury attracts Vine or Chicory, or a Pine attracts Water Violet or Beech, if one remedy is given, the opposite type remedies also has to be given for chronic cases.
Like Father Like Son
I thought I am a rebellion. In the end, I end-up becoming like my father in certain cases. For example, I am happier in doing things myself. Two years back Naran asked me to take Beech as well as Water Violet. The reason being, Water Violet type personalities sometimes become mixed with Beech qualities, finding lack of perfection in work of others.
Now (after two years, I understand lately – a Scleranthus Brain hmm :)), I understand that in all my work-related stuff I behave either as a Beech (criticizing others’ ways) or as a Water Violet (working as a solitary with a big superiority complex and this I humbly accept this criticism about myself).
Similarly, Holly and Vine complement each other. Likewise, there are other remedies complementing some other remedies.
One inside another
Yet another combination I had taken on a regular basis is – Gentian and Hornbeam. My best recommendation so far to my friends are Walnut (resist to change) Gentian and Hornbeam. Any activity will go on without fail and interruptions. You may add Pine to that combination, if you have a low self-esteem.
Naran was explaining to me about this combination a week back. A Hornbeam person, if he starts, he will complete. However, a Gentian person will get stuck up immediately.
I asked him, why then he had prescribed me both? After all, they are attacking different issues that are contradictory to each other, isn’t it? He replied, a person who has a starting trouble, will also have stuck-up issues in the middle. One is inside other, completing each other.
I am confused, I remarked. He replied that I need not worry as he is planning to take a class on multi-dimensional aspects of Bach Flower Remedies sometime during the month of November. It would clarify all my doubts.
So folks, let us catch during the month of November. Hopefully, and as always, it will clarify not only the different aspects of Bach Flower Remedies, but will also clarify some of our life issues as well.
Have a Great Deepavali
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Yesterday I had this strange experience.
As I was sleeping in the morning, for some more time, feeling very tired, in spite of my daughter and husband, who had woken up already. My husband told me that it’s ok for me to sleep, for some more time.
After a few minutes, I wanted to wake up, but could not. I yelled my husband’s name and called him, but he did not turn up at all. My daughter saw me yelling and came near me. In addition, my husband also came, and they tried to make me get up with great difficulty.
And suddenly, I opened my eyes, only to realize that all those five minutes were a dream. But, that dream was pathetic. I got really scared, if I would really be able to get up.
This is not the first time that has happened to me like that.
My mom, when I discussed with her said, that it happens like that when you are really tired. Our body does not get up even though our mind gets up. Naran, could you please explain more on why this happens?
Yes what your mom says is right. There was no co-ordination between mind and body. It is an inner cry for help. Release this.
In addition, take the Bach Flower Remedies Aspen and Clematis before sleeping.
Aspen: for nightmares
Clematis: when the mind and body is not in co-ordination
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