Do you know why honesty meets dishonesty?

Notes from Naran’s workshop on Bach Flower Remedies, Nov 20th, 2010

We tend to meet people opposite to our nature, so that we continue to maintain our character. For example, a ROCK WATER – who is duty bound, meets CHESTNUT BUD a dishonest person.

Because of principles and honesty a ROCK WATER person misses so many things in life.

Notes from Naran’s talk on Bach Flower Remedies, Feb 21^st, 2004

Belief-Ridden Rock Water Person

ROCK WATER is for those talking about social values, and believing that individual beliefs are not important. He will not feel guilty about being a highly principled man either.

As a ROCK WATER person is rigid in his principles and not flexible enough, this will be eventually reflected as joint problems and knee problems.

Example

I have no connection with my daughter who married a lower caste guy.  It is an act of self-denial, if he says, “I will not take food from my daughter.” He will totally deny it, even if he makes up with his daughter.

On the other hand, a CHICORY person will say he will not take food only as an emotional black mail, while the ROCK WATER does it to stick to his decision.

Another example

After 10 days of her husband’s death she will shave her head, irrespective of others saying that it’s no longer an appropriate behavior to be followed: a typical ROCK WATER person

Girl blaming husband’s family

Take SWEET CHESTNUT, WILLOW, HOLLY, ROCK WATER and CHESTNUT BUD to manage false accusations. Add PINE if you develop low self-esteem or think it’s all due to your karma.

To know more about such interesting facts about Bach Flower Remedies, please attend the workshop by Naran S Balakumar, at Bangalore, on 14^th Dec, 2013. Other details will be provided later.

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A Brief on Bach Flower Remedies Part II

Flower remedies are selected based on our (negative) state of mind.

• If there is fear there are four remedies – MIMULUS, ASPEN, RED CHESTNUT and ROCK ROSE. If a person has a fear then we need to give one of these remedies based on the type of fear.
• If there is worry then give WHITE CHESTNUT, AGRIMONY, PINE, or HONEY SUCKLE, as per the expression.
• Want to focus and concentration: CLEMATIS. If somebody says, “I want to be focused” then give them Clematis. If he wants concentration too then add CHESTNUT BUD to it.

How do we handle Anger?

• BEECH is a person who criticise others. He will only find faults pointing out the mistakes of others.
• WILLOW has resentment about life and others.
• CHICORY is also an angry person. He thinks that nobody does anything to him, even though he did so many things for others. Thus, he is angry at the ingratitude of others.
• HOLLY is an embodiment of rage and hatred.
• VINE: if he gets angry he will work towards taking revenge. Holly and Vine are always together.
• CHERRY PLUM: he will lose control of himself. When he gets angry he will throw things. It’s a misplaced anger at an acute state level. He might be angry at somebody. However, he will show the same at somebody else.

Other States of Mind

• Self-pride and ego: WATER VIOLET. He has a superiority complex.
• Desire to change and control other person is VERVAIN.

Beech and Vervain will come together. They are called as mixed personalities. We say child has to be like this and advise them, “don’t do this” and “don’t do that”. Beech will find fault, while Vervain desires to change others. Whenever you want to change the child, take Vervain then.

• Sadness: GENTIAN is a pessimistic person. For example, before he goes out, he is worried what will happen. Say, what if gets stuck in a traffic jam. He will always have negative approach to life. Any small setback will upset him greatly. He tends to have a negative outlook about life.
• Hopelessness: GORSE: I tried a lot of things. I don’t know whether it will work. Nothing seems to work for him. He loses his hope and therefore, does not have any trust either.
• When anyone says, “I can’t”, Larch will make him say “I can“. To have confidence in oneself Larch is the remedy. It is almost a specific remedy in any competition.

Gentian is skeptical, while Gorse would try many and finally loses hope.

You are trying to go somewhere, either by train, bus or plane. At that time you think it is not possible to get a ticket. If you take Gorse, it (hopelessness state) can be changed to joyful state. You will get a ticket.

“I want miracle to happen in my life”, when anyone says this, give them Gorse, because they are in the negative state of Gorse.

• SWEET CHESTNUT: doctors give only 24 hours lifeline for your dear one. Therefore, you feel a tremendous need to pray for divine intervention.

In fact, as long as we are seeing doctors, we won’t go near divinity. Only when the doctor says the situation is hopeless, then we focus on God. We may start chanting Vishnu Sahsaranamam. You may have desire to be spiritual. However, we don’t remember god until the critical time.

• WILD ROSE: he has no interest in life. Apathy sets in. He becomes indifferent, resigning to the life situations. It’s neither sadness nor happiness. That’s apathy, as he is not bothered about what happens around him.
• STAR OF BETHLEHEM: for accidents, shock, trauma. It is a great soother of physical and emotional pains. It is a must in all those situations.
• MUSTARD: I need to see light in my life as my whole life is in darkness. I don’t know where to go.

The patients have to say the above words and based on that you can give the remedies. All the words mentioned for the remedies should come from the horse’s mouth. Their own expressions are important. 

A Chance to Receive the BLESSING of My LIFE

Thomas

Basically the circumstances don’t change but our perception of it changes. We realize it is 99% of the problem. Once the changes happen (inside us), then things outside also changes. My story convinces of this fact. Thanks.

About a month back I went on a trip. During this time something unexpected and miraculous happened.

I have always been timid and reticent throughout my life. Never speak much to people, never been in a romantic relationship. Always been a solitary person.

On this particular day I met a girl from another country and we started talking. We felt so comfortable with each other that we stayed together for the whole day and then the next, parting only to sleep or other essentials. It was unbelievable. It felt like we knew each other from a long time.

Things moved forward and a person who had been alone, timid and anonymous all through his life fell in love. It snowballed into a physical relationship the next day and an unprotected one at that. It was unexpected, unplanned and felt pure and right at the time.

We parted on the fourth day, very sad and confused at what the future would bring. After coming back the feeling of togetherness gave way to darker feelings,

I was savaged by pangs of guilt and then fear that because of the unprotected nature of things, I may have caught something and I deserve it for what I had done. It is a sin, something wrong. It became a demon on my mind. I could neither sleep nor work.

Finally when I could bear it no longer I called Naran. He was kind and non-judgmental (my deep gratitude to him), and asked me to take the Bach Flower Remedies MIMULUS, PINE and HONEY SUCKLE.

I began taking the pills as instructed and after a few days my whole mood changed. It was amazing.

I realized that I was operating from a position of fear, guilt and anxiety – all of which were tarnishing such a beautiful gift that I had received.

In a few days she got in touch with me, against all my notions and came down and spent the rest of her trip at my city.

We got to know each other much better and we realized that we are probably are soul mates and although we are from different religions, language, nationality etc we are at peace with each other. 

I am so glad I was able to rise above the narrow and diminishing feelings of fear, guilt and anxiety and stay present to the wonderful person, experience and gift that I had got. If I had continued like that I may have lost a chance to accept a great blessing in my life!

Thank you, thank you dear Naran. God bless you and the Bach flower remedies!!!

Now we continue to stay in touch over Skype and I plan to visit her in her country. Naran has asked me to take the Bach Flower Remedies SCLERANTHUS and SWEET CHESTNUT to help guide me if she is the right life partner for me. So I feel much at peace knowing I have divine guidance to prevent me from making a wrong decision.

I am so grateful for everything!!

Deep Gratitude and Warm regards

Abundant Support from Family and Flowers

Guru Mangala

My domestic help Anu cried saying that she has been abandoned with her child, by her husband a few years ago.

She is trying to earn and educate the boy. She lives with her poor mother, brother and sister-in-law. The sister-in-law is unhappy that this girl is being sheltered here and supported by the brother. This gives chance for lots of infighting between husband and wife. Anu feels guilty that she is the cause of her dear brother’s suffering. 

She saw me giving Bach flower remedy to my mother and asked me what that is. I told her how it works. She requested me for some flowers for herself. 

I gave her RESCUE REMEDY, PINE, CENTAURY, STAR OF BETHLEHEM, CHICORY, WHITE CHESTNUT and HONEY SUCKLE with WALNUT. 

Reasons: guilt (Pine), feeling used (Centaury), trauma/ pain (Star of Bethlehem), unable to let go/ clinging to brother (Chicory, Walnut), thoughts which haunt day and night (White chestnut) and regret of the past (Honey Suckle). 

Next morning she came smiling and said she was feeling confident that the troubles will be overcome. But within a day the sister-in-law created a huge fight and walked out of the house with her parents.  Anu was so sad and kept saying “this is all because of me.” I gave her Larch.   I gave her SWEET CHESTNUT to place in the NE corner of the room, and to sprinkle CRAB APPLE and WALNUT around the house. 

For the mother I gave RED CHESTNUT and WILLOW.

For the brother, I gave OAK, CHICORY and WALNUT.

I asked Anu to do forgiveness and told her mother also to keep forgiving the daughter-in-law.

She came running next morning, “Amma, the house is peaceful.  My sister-in-law returned and apologized to my brother. She actually fell at his feet and said she would never again fight over me.  I have also apologized to her.  We are a happy family now”.

Thank the flowers. 

Since that day, nearly 2 months ago, Anu is now happily earning extra money by working in a courier company along with my household, her son is admitted to UKG and sister-in-law helps with the boy’s studies and looks after him. There is respect for Anu and all is well.

 I am ever grateful to Naran and to the Flowers for the joy they bring to so many families. 

Anu is the local advertiser of flower power in Kanchipuram!!!  I have many people seeking   remedies.

Every aspect of my life is shining

Sandy

I feel confused in daily life. I feel indecisive for big as well as small decisions. What can I do to get a firm decisive mind?

Naran

Take the Bach Flower Remedies SCLERANTHUS, PINE and IMPATIENS, 3 pills of each, four times a day. These remedies are available in any homeopathy shop

Sandy

I have been taking SCLERANTHUS, PINE and IMPATIENS as recommended by you since the last few days. One change I can see is that since starting the pills I started exercising everyday willingly. Previously though, I knew I have to exercise, but I could not get myself to exercise J

Sandy (Next day)

Since taking SCLERANTHUS, PINE and IMPATIENS, I have become more active, exercise every day, and have more control on eating. Today I cleaned my house for 4 hours. Every corner of the house is shining

Sandy (After 10 days)

Naran, Good Morning! I started taking SCLERANTHUS, PINE and IMPATIENS as suggested by you around 10 days ago, and in these 10 days I have lost 3 KGS OF WEIGHT as I feel active, and can control my eating and exercising. DIVINE THANKS!!!

Explanation

For postponing tendency, for 11^th hour persons: SCLERANTHUS

Getting impatient at the last-minute: IMPATIENS

Will feel guilty for postponing and not getting the things done: PINE

These three remedies will act in synergy with one another.

Complementing and Opposing Companions of Life!!!

R Mohan

Am I talking about our beloved life travellers in people’s lives – spouse or family members, who take different avatars in different times of our life? No, I am talking about the Bach Flower Remedies here.

Opposite Poles attract each other

Let me share my experiences here. I am a typical, typical Impatiens (Bach Flower Remedy) type. For that matter, all the male members of my family are impatient. So we end up meeting Scleranthus-type personalities. I thought so and believed so.

In this regard, it is not uncommon for me to address my close friends and my too good colleagues as Scleranthus. Surprisingly, one day Naran prescribed me Scleranthus.  In addition, he told me that I need to take it for at least 6 months.

After one year, I was shocked to realize that I need to continue to take it for six more months, as Scleranthus-types change slowly (no doubt as Scleranthus is prescribed for procrastinating types).

Thus, when an Impatiens attracts Scleranthus, a Centaury attracts Vine or Chicory, or a Pine attracts Water Violet or Beech, if one remedy is given, the opposite type remedies also has to be given for chronic cases.

Like Father Like Son

I thought I am a rebellion. In the end, I end-up becoming like my father in certain cases. For example, I am happier in doing things myself. Two years back Naran asked me to take Beech as well as Water Violet. The reason being, Water Violet type personalities sometimes become mixed with Beech qualities, finding lack of perfection in work of others.

Now (after two years, I understand lately – a Scleranthus Brain hmm :)), I understand that in all my work-related stuff I behave either as a Beech (criticizing others’ ways) or as a Water Violet (working as a solitary with a big superiority complex and this I humbly accept this criticism about myself).

Similarly, Holly and Vine complement each other. Likewise, there are other remedies complementing some other remedies.

One inside another

Yet another combination I had taken on a regular basis is – Gentian and Hornbeam. My best recommendation so far to my friends are Walnut (resist to change) Gentian and Hornbeam. Any activity will go on without fail and interruptions. You may add Pine to that combination, if you have a low self-esteem.

Naran was explaining to me about this combination a week back. A Hornbeam person, if he starts, he will complete. However, a Gentian person will get stuck up immediately.

I asked him, why then he had prescribed me both? After all, they are attacking different issues that are contradictory to each other, isn’t it? He replied, a person who has a starting trouble, will also have stuck-up issues in the middle. One is inside other, completing each other.

I am confused, I remarked. He replied that I need not worry as he is planning to take a class on multi-dimensional aspects of Bach Flower Remedies sometime during the month of November. It would clarify all my doubts.

So folks, let us catch during the month of November. Hopefully, and as always, it will clarify not only the different aspects of Bach Flower Remedies, but will also clarify some of our life issues as well.

Have a Great Deepavali

Good Luck

Bach Flower Remedies for Pain

Naran

Left arm pit – nobody is helping you, so suppressed anger will be present – Centaury and Willow for pain.

Right side arm pit – Holly, Willow

Lower back pain – Chicory

Whenever you have pains shifting from one place to another then take Scleranthus

Numbness from sitting long hours

If there is numbness from sitting long hours, then the remedies prescribed are:

Numbness in the Leg from sitting– Hornbeam and Walnut,

Hand – Wild Rose, Centaury, Pine and Willow

Calcarea Phos -6x (homeopathy) 3 tablets three times a day for one month will reduce the numbness to a very great extent – in fact, numbness will not be there.

Sharing the Success Formula

M A K

I am a fan of yours.

My father was a sub-share broker and I was young I used to follow all his work. As I grew up I had some hard times, could go to college but finished some studies. I am well versed with software and I am into business.

My father always used to say that I should concentrate in shares business but that was not going into my head I was more concentrating in my other business. Before 6 months I had a thought of going into shares business, I went but I have lost money. My 6th sense says that I can do well in it. But then to I lost the money.

After reading from your article I have started taking GORSE, ROCK ROSE, SCELERANTHUS, CERATO, OLIVE, PINE, SWEET CHESTNUT, CHESTNUT BUD, MUSTARD, and WHITE CHESTNUT. Kindly guide me

Naran

These remedies should not be combined in a reckless manner and taken.

1.       When you want to understand the nuances or intricacies of share trading take MUSTARD AND OAK.

2.       When you are asking people or referring some articles about how to go about in share business, take CERATO.

3.       When you invest in shares take SCLERANTHUS and GENTIAN. And continue to take it. This will help you to come out of “this or that” confusion. If this confusion is there, you will wrongly invest in a share, which after investment will go down. I.e., when you want the share to go up, it will come down and so on. To prevent this SCLERANTHUS and GENTIAN.

4.       Share is always a business of luck one has no choice but to accept what is happening. If there is a failure and if you are de-motivated take GENTIAN and WILD ROSE. This will increase your internal motivation.

5.       In spite of all these remedies, sometimes, you may take a wrong decision, and later regret the decision. At that time, take HONEYSUCKLE and to learn from mistakes take CHESTNUT BUD.

6.       When you are desperate about anything take SWEET CHESTNUT.

7.       Daily chant the switch words, “FIND DIVINE ORDER SHARE TRADING” (share trading is not a switch word)

Best of Luck

A typical Rock water person

(Karthik, an executive manager of a leading actor, consulted Naran, S. Balakumar regarding the problems he is facing while working inside the film industry.)

Karthik: I am a disciplined person, remaining single all my life. I meet so many celebrities in the film world. You know very well that it is a place where there is no self-control, and no discipline on the part of the individuals.

(He means drinking habits, womanizing, telling lies for their own sake, cheating people and so on. A typical ROCK WATER surrounded by CHESTNUT BUDS! Where there is a jailor/cop there are prisoners inside the jail – in one and the same place!!!)

I need to maintain my self-control, to maintain my position, until the end of my career. I am already 50 years and I have to keep up my name (image) and my parents’ name in the midst of my current situation in the film industry. My father is a self-made man. It is my duty to keep up his name. I have good respect in the industry and I have to keep it up. Earning a good name is difficult, but more difficult to keep it.

Naran: What is your daily routine? And what do you want from me?

Karthik: I am a much disciplined man. I wake up around 5 a.m. Do my yoga and then do Pooja for about one hour. From 9 a.m. I will start seeing visitors. I will have lunch around 1pm. In the night, I will do meditation for one hour before going to sleep. For dinner I will have only fruits and milk.

Naran: For a man who takes only fruits and milk in the night, what is your (health) problem then?

Karthik: I have no problems. I just want to be more self-controlled and more disciplined?

Naran: Do you have the fear of losing control? (A Rock Water person, after 50 years of age, is afraid of losing control over his self-denial of sex!)

Karthik: Yes that fear is always there. I used to tell within, “I should never lose control”

Naran: Do you get angry?

Karthik: Yes, I meet a lot of people – both good and bad, and so many liars. When I come across the bad people and liars, suddenly I will lose my temper and shout at them.

Naran: What do you feel then?

Karthik: I then feel ashamed of myself for getting angry.

Naran: What values you cherish most?

Karthik: Honesty, Dignity, Respect (motto: give respect and take respect), Speaking Truth. Unfortunately I am in a place it is full of liars, dishonest persons and cheaters. I give loan. I will never get it back.

(A Rock water person feels ashamed of himself, for getting angry. While a PINE person will feel guilty after the episode of anger. One more key word for Rock Water: Feeling Ashamed; Shameful.)

Karthik: I want to develop my spirituality further. My friend told me that you prescribe flowers for such endeavors.

Naran: You require remedies for what types of growth?

Karthik: Flower for my spiritual growth and anger.

(Anger is the one emotion which a Rock Water person will try hard to control, for it is below his dignity to get angry. So Rock water person will require CHERRY PLUM. Naran wanted to find out whether there is any Chestnut Bud quality in Karthik. So he asked a question.)

Naran: Do you have any other problem, like poor memory, for example? (A poor memory indicates Chestnut Bud)

Karthik: Yes my memory is very poor, which is one of the reasons for my anger. Is there any flower for that? Please give me that too.

(A typical Rock water person is of high discipline. He has self-control, dignity and honesty. He wants to be respected. Karthik has invited Chestnut Bud people around him. Rock Water is surrounded by Chestnut Bud.)

Prescription for Karthik

He wants remedy for losing self-control – CHERRY PLUM. He wants remedy for poor memory – CHESTNUT BUD. Of course, he has to take ROCK WATER as a type remedy.

For protection, he was asked to do Violet Flame prayer “I AM a Being of Violet Fire. I AM the Purity of God’s Creation!!!”

Getting back your dues

David Francis

I once again come to you, looking for your support.  I have this Insurance Agent friend of mine to whom I had lent 1 lakh rupees by February this year. This money, I had withdrawn from my Credit Card and lent it to him on the assurance that he will pay back the full money with whatever the interest within 3 months.

However, it’s been almost 10 months since the money has been lent and now, he is not paying the CC dues nor he is giving me back the money to pay in full.  The interests have doubled now, and he is not picking up my calls even nowadays.  I don’t know what to do, I’m already under tremendous financial stress on the personal front and I am not able to digest the fact that this good friend of mine is trying to cheat me.

Please help me with your insights on how I can get the money back from this friend. Thanking you in anticipation.

Naran

You can chant the names of the Bach Flower Remedies – Sweet Chestnut, Rock Water, Chestnut Bud, Willow and Pine two hundred times, for three times a day.

Take a small piece of paper. Write your name and his name. Draw a circle around the name. Draw five concentric circles around the first circle. Write the name of the flower remedies in the gap between two circles, one name per gap. Keep it somewhere in your house. Daily see this paper and just read out the names once.

Also, download a squirrel picture and keep it under pillow. Let us see what happens.

David Francis

It’s really amazing – I wrote to you and when I was about to go to a meeting I got your response. I just started chanting the names suggested by you on my way to the meeting and while coming back as well.  What I see on my return is a cheque for Rs.35000/- sent across by the person as part payment with an assurance that the balance will be paid before the end of this month.

Now, I have another problem – the dues from him has actually doubled and I don’t know how to ask him to pay me that – while he has paid the minimum dues in the credit card for the initial 3 months – post that I have been making the minimum dues from my end.

I thank you profusely for this wonderful remedy that you had suggested.  I shall continue chanting the remedy that you have suggested already – and if you have any other remedy for me to get the balance amount in full it will be really nice.