Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others

Mallika

I got married before seven years. Child birth is getting delayed because of problem with my husband. He is not having sufficient counting to give birth to a child. Undergoing treatment but thousands of obstacles in it. Taking tablet but discontinuing it. Main reason is my in-laws.

We are living separately due to money matters. I don’t want to take legal action because I am from a middle class family and having less support from my brother and father. I am earning for my livelihood but in-laws require all money from me. Hence we came separate. 

After that also they require share from my husband. Spoiling my family life. Hence I am earning. Again tomorrow he is consulting a doctor. No obstacles should occur again due to relations. He is a temple priest and doing pooja to lord Vinayaga. Ganapathy is his favorite god. But still obstacles and no success.

He is worrying about parents, brother, sister and all relations but not about wife. But I want his entire love and affection because I have no support other than him.

Naran

Chant “CHICORY, WALNUT, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER DIVINE” 200 times over a glass of water and drink it.

How is your relationship with your parents? Do you really love them?

Have you ever said to your father, “My dear father I love you from my heart.” Have you ever repaid your father’s love? Did you ever communicate with him with open heart? You are his semen.

Have you ever thought of acknowledging your mother’s love and affection? She is your first nurturer? The first food in your blood is her blood. She bore and endured all the pains for your sake. The first smile – the first energy of love – you received in this world is hers. Prostrate to her. Say, “My dear mother I love you. You are the source of my love. You are the source of all my relationships.”

Do this for 21 days. If you think it uncomfortable do it mentally.

Your husband is a priest in Ganesh temple. You become like Lord Ganesha in respecting your parents.

Mallika

Thanks for your prompt and good response.

Some bitter relationship I have with my father. You are right. He has given me everything. But, after my schooling I am not able to continue my studies in college due to his financial capacity. So I was compelled to work and continue my studies through correspondence.

 I obeyed, worked and completed my graduation. I also learnt computer courses, typing, shorthand etc., during my working. But all the talents developed by them only because in school days we were doing milk business.

So, dual role started at the age of 12 and started earning money at that age. But I was having a feeling that they did not send me to college. But today I am a good position equal to those who are educated in college.

Today, my mother is not alive. But she has given me everything to face challenges and lead a decent life in the society. Before marriage also I was giving my earnings to my mother only. Not even a single paisa to my father. Now I realize the mistakes done by me. I will start respecting my father and get his blessings.

Please suggest remedies to get her blessings. Now my mind is clear.

I really thank you for making realize my mistakes and the way you answer is wonderful.

God has sent you to all of us like me who are suffering mentally in their hearts. You are rendering wonderful services to mankind. Thanks a million to you and your team.

Naran

Do it mentally to your mother.

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My past failures are holding on to me

I am trying to find a new job and I am meeting some obstacles within myself. Here are the themes:

• Not feeling I have the skill set to apply to the positions I know in my heart that I desire for.
• Not feeling smart enough even though I am graduated from a top school.
• I remember past failures, even though I have an outstanding memory.
• Feeling like that I cannot get good references.
• Not feeling valuable or that I can make as much money as I know I deserve for my work.
• Feeling judged for even wanting to rise to a higher position (glass ceiling).
• I regret my past failures in school despite outstanding reviews for the past 4 years. It is quite irrational but is having a real affect on my ability.
• Is there a mantra that can work for me? I am committed to getting out of this rut from the inside out.
• Additionally, I am always somehow short on funds even though I know with some certainty that I can maintain a balanced checkbook. Little things always happen to take it away.

Naran

Chant “ELM, LARCH, HONEYSUCKLE, GENTIAN, HORNBEAM”

No promotion in sight for me

I am working in an IT company for past 5 plus years and working very hard but I am not being recognized nor being promoted to the next level. I have my appraisal next month and I need promotion and a very good salary hike, as I do not want to leave my company.

Please help me. Because of this I am very de-motivated after working so hard and doing well and yet there is no career progression

Naran

Chant “ELM LARCH ROCK ROSE”.
(Within yourself) thank all your colleagues, superiors, the management, and the salary you are getting (currently). Live in the attitude of gratitude.

Explanation

Elm: will expand your capabilities that are required for your growth and promotions in your endeavors.

Larch: Boosts your self-confidence (for success)

Honeysuckle:  Not to regret in the past, and not to be held by the past. Instead, move forward in life.

Gentian: Not to be down due to setbacks. Instead use them as feedback and lessons to be learned.

Hornbeam: Not to get stuck up and move forward

Rock rose: not to panic about the appraisal