Do you know why honesty meets dishonesty?

Notes from Naran’s workshop on Bach Flower Remedies, Nov 20th, 2010

We tend to meet people opposite to our nature, so that we continue to maintain our character. For example, a ROCK WATER – who is duty bound, meets CHESTNUT BUD a dishonest person.

Because of principles and honesty a ROCK WATER person misses so many things in life.

Notes from Naran’s talk on Bach Flower Remedies, Feb 21^st, 2004

Belief-Ridden Rock Water Person

ROCK WATER is for those talking about social values, and believing that individual beliefs are not important. He will not feel guilty about being a highly principled man either.

As a ROCK WATER person is rigid in his principles and not flexible enough, this will be eventually reflected as joint problems and knee problems.

Example

I have no connection with my daughter who married a lower caste guy.  It is an act of self-denial, if he says, “I will not take food from my daughter.” He will totally deny it, even if he makes up with his daughter.

On the other hand, a CHICORY person will say he will not take food only as an emotional black mail, while the ROCK WATER does it to stick to his decision.

Another example

After 10 days of her husband’s death she will shave her head, irrespective of others saying that it’s no longer an appropriate behavior to be followed: a typical ROCK WATER person

Girl blaming husband’s family

Take SWEET CHESTNUT, WILLOW, HOLLY, ROCK WATER and CHESTNUT BUD to manage false accusations. Add PINE if you develop low self-esteem or think it’s all due to your karma.

To know more about such interesting facts about Bach Flower Remedies, please attend the workshop by Naran S Balakumar, at Bangalore, on 14^th Dec, 2013. Other details will be provided later.

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No guts to tell my love

AS

Hi Naranji, I’m really thankful to god that I found your blogs. Please help me I am very much depressed in my life.

I love a person who is also my relative. I haven’t told him that l love him.

He is my only hope. I want him as my husband. I have no guts to let him know that I love him. I’m afraid of the consequences but I can’t live without him.

I always pray god for him else to kill me. But I really want to live with him, and his family. I don’t expect anything other than his love.

Naran

Adamancy will not take you anywhere. Don’t demand anything from God. Your demanding will happen as per your wish in a different way.

When you pray like this, “I always pray god for him else to kill me,” God will kill you first.

How?

The circumstances will so develop that you marry another who will kill you emotionally and mentally.

Instead pray, “I thank the divine for getting married to —“

“CENTAURY, CHICORY, GENTIAN, WILD ROSE” – write these four words in a notebook for 51 times.

Explanation

For a person who does not have the guts to ask for what he needs or desires: CENTAURY

Clinging and being possessive: CHICORY

Not to be disappointed: GENTIAN

To accept what happens: WILD ROSE

My married life is like living in a hostel

My married life is like a hostel life. We two are living like roommates only. He is taking food, and bathing at his mother’s home, coming only in the late evening after finishing all his routines. He is not willing to go out with me.

We two are working and have problems in money matters.

In-laws also wanted to keep him with them at all times. He is the third son. All others in family are well attached to their families blessed with all boons and children. But I am living like sanyasi and no children after seven years of marriage. Not all are co-operating even for small things also. Undergoing treatment and that too not successful till date.

Born in a poor temple’s priest family and after many struggles and hard work, completed my graduation and currently earning a small income monthly. But in-laws need my money fully and problem created there and we came separately. After that also they are begging for money from my husband.

He believes them and not trusting me. I am doing and thinking everything for our welfare only. But he does not understand me. Not going out with me, but willing to go with others.

I am working from my young age. So I don’t want to quit the job and be idle. But in a joint-family I have to give all money to them.

We are separate now but my life is like a sanyasi life.

All my relations are coming with their partners. But I am going alone to all functions. He is not at all willing to come out with me.

Gone through your site and all mantras are well, good and useful.

I am a devotee of Shridi Sai Baba and I trust the reply given by you is the remedy given by Guru Shridi Sai. Jai Sairam. Sainath Maharaj Ki Jai.

Naran

Throughout our life, we hunt for love, needing caring and affection from others. When we don’t get it, we fail to understand that we are demanding more and more from a person who does not have what we want. Instead, we hang on to him.

Our demand annoys him and he distances himself away. The paradox is he married you with the intention that you would give him love. There is an unconscious decision is your life before birth that you will always give love to your husband without any expectation. Now instead of giving, you want to receive. That is why you are not getting.

Instead of trying to get, become a giver. That is why you are named Someshwari.

Give love even when there is no receiving.

Giving love without expecting to receive will make you magnanimous.

Thank every person and every event in your life daily.

Meditate on Sai Baba, reminding yourself of his anecdotes of Divine love and visualize his love filling up your heart. Then from your heart let his love flow through your hands to your husband and his family.

Do this daily. Thank them. Pray for them.

Chant the following: “CHICORY, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER FIND DIVINE LOVE WITH”.

Chant this as many times as possible.

Faith and Endurance will carry us forward.

Write this in a paper and keep it under the pillow.

Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others

Mallika

I got married before seven years. Child birth is getting delayed because of problem with my husband. He is not having sufficient counting to give birth to a child. Undergoing treatment but thousands of obstacles in it. Taking tablet but discontinuing it. Main reason is my in-laws.

We are living separately due to money matters. I don’t want to take legal action because I am from a middle class family and having less support from my brother and father. I am earning for my livelihood but in-laws require all money from me. Hence we came separate. 

After that also they require share from my husband. Spoiling my family life. Hence I am earning. Again tomorrow he is consulting a doctor. No obstacles should occur again due to relations. He is a temple priest and doing pooja to lord Vinayaga. Ganapathy is his favorite god. But still obstacles and no success.

He is worrying about parents, brother, sister and all relations but not about wife. But I want his entire love and affection because I have no support other than him.

Naran

Chant “CHICORY, WALNUT, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER DIVINE” 200 times over a glass of water and drink it.

How is your relationship with your parents? Do you really love them?

Have you ever said to your father, “My dear father I love you from my heart.” Have you ever repaid your father’s love? Did you ever communicate with him with open heart? You are his semen.

Have you ever thought of acknowledging your mother’s love and affection? She is your first nurturer? The first food in your blood is her blood. She bore and endured all the pains for your sake. The first smile – the first energy of love – you received in this world is hers. Prostrate to her. Say, “My dear mother I love you. You are the source of my love. You are the source of all my relationships.”

Do this for 21 days. If you think it uncomfortable do it mentally.

Your husband is a priest in Ganesh temple. You become like Lord Ganesha in respecting your parents.

Mallika

Thanks for your prompt and good response.

Some bitter relationship I have with my father. You are right. He has given me everything. But, after my schooling I am not able to continue my studies in college due to his financial capacity. So I was compelled to work and continue my studies through correspondence.

 I obeyed, worked and completed my graduation. I also learnt computer courses, typing, shorthand etc., during my working. But all the talents developed by them only because in school days we were doing milk business.

So, dual role started at the age of 12 and started earning money at that age. But I was having a feeling that they did not send me to college. But today I am a good position equal to those who are educated in college.

Today, my mother is not alive. But she has given me everything to face challenges and lead a decent life in the society. Before marriage also I was giving my earnings to my mother only. Not even a single paisa to my father. Now I realize the mistakes done by me. I will start respecting my father and get his blessings.

Please suggest remedies to get her blessings. Now my mind is clear.

I really thank you for making realize my mistakes and the way you answer is wonderful.

God has sent you to all of us like me who are suffering mentally in their hearts. You are rendering wonderful services to mankind. Thanks a million to you and your team.

Naran

Do it mentally to your mother.