My married life is like living in a hostel

My married life is like a hostel life. We two are living like roommates only. He is taking food, and bathing at his mother’s home, coming only in the late evening after finishing all his routines. He is not willing to go out with me.

We two are working and have problems in money matters.

In-laws also wanted to keep him with them at all times. He is the third son. All others in family are well attached to their families blessed with all boons and children. But I am living like sanyasi and no children after seven years of marriage. Not all are co-operating even for small things also. Undergoing treatment and that too not successful till date.

Born in a poor temple’s priest family and after many struggles and hard work, completed my graduation and currently earning a small income monthly. But in-laws need my money fully and problem created there and we came separately. After that also they are begging for money from my husband.

He believes them and not trusting me. I am doing and thinking everything for our welfare only. But he does not understand me. Not going out with me, but willing to go with others.

I am working from my young age. So I don’t want to quit the job and be idle. But in a joint-family I have to give all money to them.

We are separate now but my life is like a sanyasi life.

All my relations are coming with their partners. But I am going alone to all functions. He is not at all willing to come out with me.

Gone through your site and all mantras are well, good and useful.

I am a devotee of Shridi Sai Baba and I trust the reply given by you is the remedy given by Guru Shridi Sai. Jai Sairam. Sainath Maharaj Ki Jai.

Naran

Throughout our life, we hunt for love, needing caring and affection from others. When we don’t get it, we fail to understand that we are demanding more and more from a person who does not have what we want. Instead, we hang on to him.

Our demand annoys him and he distances himself away. The paradox is he married you with the intention that you would give him love. There is an unconscious decision is your life before birth that you will always give love to your husband without any expectation. Now instead of giving, you want to receive. That is why you are not getting.

Instead of trying to get, become a giver. That is why you are named Someshwari.

Give love even when there is no receiving.

Giving love without expecting to receive will make you magnanimous.

Thank every person and every event in your life daily.

Meditate on Sai Baba, reminding yourself of his anecdotes of Divine love and visualize his love filling up your heart. Then from your heart let his love flow through your hands to your husband and his family.

Do this daily. Thank them. Pray for them.

Chant the following: “CHICORY, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER FIND DIVINE LOVE WITH”.

Chant this as many times as possible.

Faith and Endurance will carry us forward.

Write this in a paper and keep it under the pillow.

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Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others

Mallika

I got married before seven years. Child birth is getting delayed because of problem with my husband. He is not having sufficient counting to give birth to a child. Undergoing treatment but thousands of obstacles in it. Taking tablet but discontinuing it. Main reason is my in-laws.

We are living separately due to money matters. I don’t want to take legal action because I am from a middle class family and having less support from my brother and father. I am earning for my livelihood but in-laws require all money from me. Hence we came separate. 

After that also they require share from my husband. Spoiling my family life. Hence I am earning. Again tomorrow he is consulting a doctor. No obstacles should occur again due to relations. He is a temple priest and doing pooja to lord Vinayaga. Ganapathy is his favorite god. But still obstacles and no success.

He is worrying about parents, brother, sister and all relations but not about wife. But I want his entire love and affection because I have no support other than him.

Naran

Chant “CHICORY, WALNUT, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER DIVINE” 200 times over a glass of water and drink it.

How is your relationship with your parents? Do you really love them?

Have you ever said to your father, “My dear father I love you from my heart.” Have you ever repaid your father’s love? Did you ever communicate with him with open heart? You are his semen.

Have you ever thought of acknowledging your mother’s love and affection? She is your first nurturer? The first food in your blood is her blood. She bore and endured all the pains for your sake. The first smile – the first energy of love – you received in this world is hers. Prostrate to her. Say, “My dear mother I love you. You are the source of my love. You are the source of all my relationships.”

Do this for 21 days. If you think it uncomfortable do it mentally.

Your husband is a priest in Ganesh temple. You become like Lord Ganesha in respecting your parents.

Mallika

Thanks for your prompt and good response.

Some bitter relationship I have with my father. You are right. He has given me everything. But, after my schooling I am not able to continue my studies in college due to his financial capacity. So I was compelled to work and continue my studies through correspondence.

 I obeyed, worked and completed my graduation. I also learnt computer courses, typing, shorthand etc., during my working. But all the talents developed by them only because in school days we were doing milk business.

So, dual role started at the age of 12 and started earning money at that age. But I was having a feeling that they did not send me to college. But today I am a good position equal to those who are educated in college.

Today, my mother is not alive. But she has given me everything to face challenges and lead a decent life in the society. Before marriage also I was giving my earnings to my mother only. Not even a single paisa to my father. Now I realize the mistakes done by me. I will start respecting my father and get his blessings.

Please suggest remedies to get her blessings. Now my mind is clear.

I really thank you for making realize my mistakes and the way you answer is wonderful.

God has sent you to all of us like me who are suffering mentally in their hearts. You are rendering wonderful services to mankind. Thanks a million to you and your team.

Naran

Do it mentally to your mother.

Power to Achieve

Hibiscus

“The power needed in yoga is the power to go through effort, difficulty or trouble without getting fatigued, depressed, discouraged or impatient and without breaking off the effort or giving up one’s aim or resolution.”

– The Mother

When can you use this flower?

• For any obstacle or hindrance
• If there is a delay, obstruction, opposition or restriction, for example, if there is a delay in getting the offer.  What can you do then? You can take the picture and meditate upon it. 
• Just look at it for a while, if the project or something else is delayed. Let us say, marriage is delayed.
• If there is a stumbling block in your way, say a person is hindering, sabotaging or preventing you from doing anything…
• You are stopped from getting a promotion…“Let this girl need not get a job, a colleague might work towards it”

These can be categorized as obstruction, prevention and sabotage. In all these areas of problems, the Hibiscus flower can be used as a beautiful remedy.

The Hibiscus with this color only (Hawaii Hibiscus flower) has got that healing power. In fact, Mother has discussed about 15 varieties of Hibiscus flowers. Only the Hawaii Hibiscus flower has the qualities I have mentioned.

Have a look at the picture of the Hibiscus flower. You are blessed if you just get an opportunity to see it. Both the picture and pills of the flowers are available in the centre. The original flower is from Hawaii. Outside of the flower will be in yellowish orange, while its inside is red in color.

Have Genuine Friends

I have no genuine friends. Is there is any remedy to get good friends? I had a couple of best friends in school and college, and many long distance good friends, but not any girlfriends whom I can call as best friends after my marriage.

Naran

1.       Yes! By taking Bach flower remedy WATER VIOLET you can get good friends. You can take 3 pills 3 times a day.

2.       You can keep the picture of Water violet in your pocket (download them or the picture is available in the Bach Flower centre).

3.       Chant Water violet.

4.       You can also write the name Water violet daily in a notebook – 20 to 30 times.

Naran S Balakumar’s 61st birthday Celebration

How Bach Flower Remedies, Reiki and Angels Helped in Smooth Conduct of the function

On His Own

Naran S. Balakumar celebrated his Shashtiaptha Poorthi (61st birthday celebrations) on 2nd August 2009 in Chennai peacefully and joyously. He sought the divine help of Bach Flowers and Reiki to ensure that this important event goes off without any glitches and hassles.

Please note that Balakumar’s only daughter is based in Singapore and most of his close relatives are elderly people. So, help available to Balakumar to organize an event of this importance and scale was limited.

It’s all about having a good start

As the event was getting finalized, he sought the help of Sweet Chestnut, Walnut and Hornbeam. He mixed this Bach Flower combination in the main water in the house so that everyone is in that energy field.

Ensuring that event goes off as planned

He changed this combination to Sweet Chestnut, Walnut and Gentian for the last 15 days leading to the day of Shashtiaptha Poorthi. He added Gentian to ensure that there is no regression to the plans and that the event goes off as planned.

Making sure that no untoward incident happens

He added Rescue remedy to the Sweet Chestnut, Walnut and Gentian combination for the penultimate day and the day of the event to ensure that there is no untoward incident (like a child getting hurt while playing etc.,) on the premises of the event.

He placed a glass of water filled Sweet Chestnut, Walnut, Gentian and Rescue Remedy at different corners of the Mandapam (venue) on the day of the event. He also invoked Reiki angels and Arch Angels like St. Germain for happy and smooth flow of the event.

How do you invoke angels? Merely request the angels to come & be present in the place/event of your choice and request the Angels to do their duty.

Everyone was filled with Joy and Energy

Thanks to the divine blessings of the Reiki Angels, Arch Angels, Bach flowers and the Gods invoked in the event, the Shashtiaptha Poorthi went off peacefully and joyously. Few people even felt the subtle difference in the energy field in the venue!

The owner of the Mandapam (venue) commented that he rarely sees functions and events that go off so smoothly like this one. He also offered to provide A/c in the hall and rooms at no extra cost.

Serve a tasty food

We always remember the taste of the food more than the event. So, Naran added the Sweet Chestnut, Walnut, Gentian and Rescue Remedy combination in the main water used for cooking. This helped in the food being very tasty, which was appreciated by most of the friends and relatives who had come for the function/event.

The caterer got quite a few enquiries so much so that he exhausted the visiting cards he was carrying! No stomach upset! Even after one month or two months, attendees talk about his Lunch.

No Negative Energy around whatsoever

The above Bach flower combination also helps in warding off evil eye and negative energy from the event and those involved in the event.

No wastage of food

The function happened over two days. During first day, he had organized a Homam at his place. On that day he was expecting around 100 guests. Though, only 60 turned up. So the food got wasted.

Next day was the Shashtiaptha Poorthi function. He had organized break fast for 100 and lunch for 400 guests. He was worried that food might go waste again. So he called upon the Animal Spirit Guide Wolf and prayed, ““Wolf! Please make sure that everybody eats well and no food gets wasted this time”.

100 guests came for the breakfast and 401 turned up for lunch. No food was left uneaten or wasted.

Angels and Divine are Waiting to Help You

Thus, you can also invoke the divine energy of Reiki Angels, Bach Flower, Animal spirits and Arch Angels to organize any important events/functions in your family/office and get benefited!

The 21st Century Magic Pill

The Bach Flower Remedy Walnut

In this Age of Change, WALNUT is the Elixir of Life.

Relationships

• To attract a partner: Walnut. It helps a single person to get married.
• Not connected to the family and say, “I don’t belong here. I am out of place”: Walnut will make it happen. It is required for a newly married girl.
• If a wife does not want to divorce, Walnut can help her achieve her objective. First marriage ended in a divorce, not to attract the same type of person in the second marriage: Walnut.
• Child bearing: if there is no physical problem, then Walnut is the remedy for two bodies to unite and give birth to a baby, with help of Divinity.

Children

• Improve handwriting of children: Walnut. I want my son to become studious says mother of a child. Both mother and son should take Walnut.

• Teenage children, not to be influenced by peers: Walnut. Too much of TV viewing, speaking on mobile phone or any addiction: Walnut, Scleranthus.

• You are afraid that you will fail in the exam or in an interview; you want do well: Walnut

Work

• There will be no dismissal if you take Walnut. 
• Forced to change jobs frequently, work is not challenging, to make progress: Walnut. Somebody prevents promotion: Willow and Walnut.
• Work half-done and not able to complete it: Walnut, Oak and Hornbeam

Business

• When signing an agreement, chant “Walnut”. Concerned parties will adhere to the policy of a gentlemen’s agreement.
• Cash flow and profit: Walnut

Life Situations Where Walnut is Helpful

• To begin: Walnut is ‘PILLAYAR SULI”.  Walnut is the remedy for relaxation.
• Not achieving anything concrete and could not see any growth: Walnut. 
• For selling house and land – spray Walnut water on them. It will be publicized by word of mouth. Sharing the ancestral property: Walnut
• To get a Helping Hand, or if there is Delay and Resistance: Walnut (it works like Wolf animal spirit). Worried about Saturn (7.5 years itch): Walnut
• If you are uncomfortable to attend a VIP’s marriage: Walnut, Water Violet and Larch. You will be treated like a VIP.
• To stop the bleeding: Rescue Remedy, Walnut