My married life is like living in a hostel

My married life is like a hostel life. We two are living like roommates only. He is taking food, and bathing at his mother’s home, coming only in the late evening after finishing all his routines. He is not willing to go out with me.

We two are working and have problems in money matters.

In-laws also wanted to keep him with them at all times. He is the third son. All others in family are well attached to their families blessed with all boons and children. But I am living like sanyasi and no children after seven years of marriage. Not all are co-operating even for small things also. Undergoing treatment and that too not successful till date.

Born in a poor temple’s priest family and after many struggles and hard work, completed my graduation and currently earning a small income monthly. But in-laws need my money fully and problem created there and we came separately. After that also they are begging for money from my husband.

He believes them and not trusting me. I am doing and thinking everything for our welfare only. But he does not understand me. Not going out with me, but willing to go with others.

I am working from my young age. So I don’t want to quit the job and be idle. But in a joint-family I have to give all money to them.

We are separate now but my life is like a sanyasi life.

All my relations are coming with their partners. But I am going alone to all functions. He is not at all willing to come out with me.

Gone through your site and all mantras are well, good and useful.

I am a devotee of Shridi Sai Baba and I trust the reply given by you is the remedy given by Guru Shridi Sai. Jai Sairam. Sainath Maharaj Ki Jai.

Naran

Throughout our life, we hunt for love, needing caring and affection from others. When we don’t get it, we fail to understand that we are demanding more and more from a person who does not have what we want. Instead, we hang on to him.

Our demand annoys him and he distances himself away. The paradox is he married you with the intention that you would give him love. There is an unconscious decision is your life before birth that you will always give love to your husband without any expectation. Now instead of giving, you want to receive. That is why you are not getting.

Instead of trying to get, become a giver. That is why you are named Someshwari.

Give love even when there is no receiving.

Giving love without expecting to receive will make you magnanimous.

Thank every person and every event in your life daily.

Meditate on Sai Baba, reminding yourself of his anecdotes of Divine love and visualize his love filling up your heart. Then from your heart let his love flow through your hands to your husband and his family.

Do this daily. Thank them. Pray for them.

Chant the following: “CHICORY, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER FIND DIVINE LOVE WITH”.

Chant this as many times as possible.

Faith and Endurance will carry us forward.

Write this in a paper and keep it under the pillow.

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Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others

Mallika

I got married before seven years. Child birth is getting delayed because of problem with my husband. He is not having sufficient counting to give birth to a child. Undergoing treatment but thousands of obstacles in it. Taking tablet but discontinuing it. Main reason is my in-laws.

We are living separately due to money matters. I don’t want to take legal action because I am from a middle class family and having less support from my brother and father. I am earning for my livelihood but in-laws require all money from me. Hence we came separate. 

After that also they require share from my husband. Spoiling my family life. Hence I am earning. Again tomorrow he is consulting a doctor. No obstacles should occur again due to relations. He is a temple priest and doing pooja to lord Vinayaga. Ganapathy is his favorite god. But still obstacles and no success.

He is worrying about parents, brother, sister and all relations but not about wife. But I want his entire love and affection because I have no support other than him.

Naran

Chant “CHICORY, WALNUT, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER DIVINE” 200 times over a glass of water and drink it.

How is your relationship with your parents? Do you really love them?

Have you ever said to your father, “My dear father I love you from my heart.” Have you ever repaid your father’s love? Did you ever communicate with him with open heart? You are his semen.

Have you ever thought of acknowledging your mother’s love and affection? She is your first nurturer? The first food in your blood is her blood. She bore and endured all the pains for your sake. The first smile – the first energy of love – you received in this world is hers. Prostrate to her. Say, “My dear mother I love you. You are the source of my love. You are the source of all my relationships.”

Do this for 21 days. If you think it uncomfortable do it mentally.

Your husband is a priest in Ganesh temple. You become like Lord Ganesha in respecting your parents.

Mallika

Thanks for your prompt and good response.

Some bitter relationship I have with my father. You are right. He has given me everything. But, after my schooling I am not able to continue my studies in college due to his financial capacity. So I was compelled to work and continue my studies through correspondence.

 I obeyed, worked and completed my graduation. I also learnt computer courses, typing, shorthand etc., during my working. But all the talents developed by them only because in school days we were doing milk business.

So, dual role started at the age of 12 and started earning money at that age. But I was having a feeling that they did not send me to college. But today I am a good position equal to those who are educated in college.

Today, my mother is not alive. But she has given me everything to face challenges and lead a decent life in the society. Before marriage also I was giving my earnings to my mother only. Not even a single paisa to my father. Now I realize the mistakes done by me. I will start respecting my father and get his blessings.

Please suggest remedies to get her blessings. Now my mind is clear.

I really thank you for making realize my mistakes and the way you answer is wonderful.

God has sent you to all of us like me who are suffering mentally in their hearts. You are rendering wonderful services to mankind. Thanks a million to you and your team.

Naran

Do it mentally to your mother.

Rain Rain Come Again

Roopa

A month before, the temperature in Bangalore was above 43. As usual there is a scarcity of water all over the world. I was really troubled and wondered how we could put up our life in this situation, in this big city. NO RAINS, NO WATER.

I had read in one of your blogs about no rains in Chennai and the prayers that you all had put together: http://www.naranheal.com/archives/362.

I had noted a few notes on the BACH FLOWER REMEDIES. And LO, I started chanting those FLOWER NAMES sitting in the bus one evening: “SWEET CHESTNUT, WILD ROSE, CHESTNUT BUD”.

After 3 days of chanting for 108 times, slight gloomy weather started. Almost after 5-6 days, it started raining heavily, down pouring in Bangalore as well as in other places of Karnataka. I was so excited that I thanked GOD for listening to my prayers. Just hope that we get good rains, and good crops to live a moderate and happy life. At the same time, I pray to the all the living beings of this world to make the PROPER USAGE of the NATURE’S PRODUCTS. Thanks to NARAN and SHOBANA once again.

Naran

Roopa,

Next time add ROCK ROSE also (“SWEET CHESTNUT WILD ROSE CHESTNUT BUD ROCK ROSE”).

Rockrose means instant help without any expectation. It will help in a public cause.

Let Others Not Cheat You

The Mother’s Red Balsam Flower

Managing mean-minded people, who wants to cheat you

If any person is mean-minded and not giving your money… One might have taken your money and he is dodging to give it. He might be avoiding you or evading you. Paste the picture on him (write his name on a paper and paste), and meditate on the flower.  Between brothers and sisters there is always a dispute whether to give the equal share to all-concerned. Then you could use this flower.

Getting donations

For voluntary agencies, to collect donations from people, they can have this picture or they could put the picture of Balsam in their letter-head. If you suggest to them, they might ask you to do it for them. For that we need to be generous.

If you visualize Balsam flower in your heart centre (chakra), you will attract people who are generous and who are not bargaining.

Making people fair to you

If anybody is unfair, aggressive, ill-tempered or spiteful, paste this picture on the name of the person (write the name in a piece of paper and paste the picture over it). Or visualize the flower in their heart centre. Thus, you can project the flowers on others the moment you think about them as they represent divine in this world.

Only Red Balsam has got the above-mentioned properties.

Sharing the property of the deceased brother, a case history

Recently a person died. That person has a brother and a sister. Within 10 days, a conflict arose between the living siblings of the deceased, over taking the property.

The sister came to me. At that time I didn’t have the color picture. Therefore, I printed the picture of the Balsam flower in black and white color and gave it to her. From the next day onwards, the quarrel about the property between them has stopped. It was resolved amicably.

Getting the generosity of others

I told her to always keep the picture with her. If you keep this flower in your heart centre, what is the message given to the other person? I am ready to give whatever you want.

Whenever you are ready to give what the other person has demanded you, then immediately the opposite person will stop his unfair demands.

How to Use Bach Flower Remedies

Chanting the Bach Flower Remedies

Chanting the flower name means is that we had surrendered to the flowers, as we don’t know what else to do. So it works for the same reason. In addition, we release the emotions and thoughts with help of flowers as otherwise whatever we think will happen.

There are no side-effects, as see even chanting the flower works. They are like switch words and influence the subconscious mind. Though the pills are a medium through which the flowers do their work and they give a different sort of experience.

Chanting for others

Chanting works even if the concerned person who needs healing doesn’t do it. May be after seeing the results, next time when they face a similar situation they might say “your chanting has helped me last time. So please do this time too!” So chant for others. It’s a gift for them.

Let us see an example. Somebody living in a different town and they are feeling homesick. You may chant HONEY SUCKLE and it will work as their feelings are projection of yours. You are healed and they are then healed too. Also we are all one and the same and that’s why it is working – thus as a projection we bring people in our lives, who are similar to or complement our nature.

Using the Circle Technique

Take a piece of paper and write the name of the person within a circle. Around the circle write the name of the flower and draw a circle over it. If there are additional flowers, have a concentric circle for each of them. This distance healing method is very effective.

A case history

For vomiting during pregnancy, give SCLERANTHUS. The daughter-law of a student of Naran lives in US. The lady followed the circle method and it healed her daughter-in-law.

If you have trust and faith in Bach flowers, it will work wonders. Nature is ready to helps us in the form of flowers. Of course, it is one of the multiple ways to heal.

Heal people who are living with you

Take a glass of water cover with right hand and chant the flower names. Give the water to them. It will work, even if the concerned person doesn’t believe in Bach Flower Therapy, as it is not a belief based therapy.

You may find no harmony in your family. Put 10 to 15 pills of Harmony pack in the common drinking water. The fight will disappear. Your family members might wonder how come the fight is not there anymore. Please note here, that disharmony within us has resulted in lack of harmony within the family. Of course, we don’t find the fault with us, but find it only on others!!!

How does taking remedies by us impact others in our lives

We take different avatars during the day – BEECH avatar in the morning, WILLOW avatar in the afternoon and so on. At the most we take any of the 38 avatars identified by Edward Bach.

We invite people of a specific nature. Let us say that we are CENTAURY we might invite CHICORY bosses. It like a formula X-1 = Y+1, where X denotes Centaury and Y denotes manipulating boss. So when our Centaury nature changes, then the bosses need to change too. That’s how flower remedies work with us and others around us.

Healing the World

There are so many natural calamities happening in the world. On a regular basis to heal them, chant “SWEET CHESTNUT WILD ROSE CHESTNUT BUD” 5 to 10 minutes. Or think about the nature or the world and chant. This is what we can give back to the world.

Bach Flower Remedies completes the healing process

Bach Flower Remedies will work, though we can’t say it can work alone. It has to be used in complement with other types of healing, as it’s not a Samaya Sanjeevani (a cure for all). Though it does one thing – it completes the healing process. Thus, it doesn’t pre-suppose other healing options.

Remedy means help and not a cure. Through Bach flowers, you are helping the person. There are instances even one dosage has changed a person completely.

Flowers are Life-Changers

Each and every flower gives a unique experience. To gain that, do the following: take one flower remedy 3 times a day for 7 days, listen to the conversations that are happening around you, whom we meet and our life incidents. You will learn something that will change your life forever!!!