Do you know why honesty meets dishonesty?

Notes from Naran’s workshop on Bach Flower Remedies, Nov 20th, 2010

We tend to meet people opposite to our nature, so that we continue to maintain our character. For example, a ROCK WATER – who is duty bound, meets CHESTNUT BUD a dishonest person.

Because of principles and honesty a ROCK WATER person misses so many things in life.

Notes from Naran’s talk on Bach Flower Remedies, Feb 21^st, 2004

Belief-Ridden Rock Water Person

ROCK WATER is for those talking about social values, and believing that individual beliefs are not important. He will not feel guilty about being a highly principled man either.

As a ROCK WATER person is rigid in his principles and not flexible enough, this will be eventually reflected as joint problems and knee problems.

Example

I have no connection with my daughter who married a lower caste guy.  It is an act of self-denial, if he says, “I will not take food from my daughter.” He will totally deny it, even if he makes up with his daughter.

On the other hand, a CHICORY person will say he will not take food only as an emotional black mail, while the ROCK WATER does it to stick to his decision.

Another example

After 10 days of her husband’s death she will shave her head, irrespective of others saying that it’s no longer an appropriate behavior to be followed: a typical ROCK WATER person

Girl blaming husband’s family

Take SWEET CHESTNUT, WILLOW, HOLLY, ROCK WATER and CHESTNUT BUD to manage false accusations. Add PINE if you develop low self-esteem or think it’s all due to your karma.

To know more about such interesting facts about Bach Flower Remedies, please attend the workshop by Naran S Balakumar, at Bangalore, on 14^th Dec, 2013. Other details will be provided later.

Related blogs

A typical Rock water person:  http://wp.me/ptUDl-4i

Lawyers couldn’t be liars: http://wp.me/ptUDl-C

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Don’t calculate what you spend

Ram

I am suffering from Varicocele problem.

Naran

Varicocele is similar to varicose veins; but the site of problem is scrotum.

There is a block of blood flow; built-up or accumulation of venous blood. There is no space to go and therefore, there is back flow.

Take the flower remedies CHICORY for holding on to what all is not needed.

The person’s stingy nature – calculating every penny that is being spent – is one of the causes. Giving or spending with a wry face, is the nature of the family.

Pessimistic attitude is another reason. GENTIAN is the remedy for that.

For removing the built up, CRAB APPLE is also needed.

For the back flow, which is against the natural flow, SCLERANTHUS is the remedy. Always having confusion, between two choices, fear of taking a decision, not doing anything in Time, calls for Bach flower remedy Scleranthus.

A combination of CHICORY, GENTIAN, SCLERANTHUS and CRAB APPLE is to be taken for 4 months.

Related Blog:

Need not cut down expenses: http://wp.me/p3dvrM-1f

No guts to tell my love

AS

Hi Naranji, I’m really thankful to god that I found your blogs. Please help me I am very much depressed in my life.

I love a person who is also my relative. I haven’t told him that l love him.

He is my only hope. I want him as my husband. I have no guts to let him know that I love him. I’m afraid of the consequences but I can’t live without him.

I always pray god for him else to kill me. But I really want to live with him, and his family. I don’t expect anything other than his love.

Naran

Adamancy will not take you anywhere. Don’t demand anything from God. Your demanding will happen as per your wish in a different way.

When you pray like this, “I always pray god for him else to kill me,” God will kill you first.

How?

The circumstances will so develop that you marry another who will kill you emotionally and mentally.

Instead pray, “I thank the divine for getting married to —“

“CENTAURY, CHICORY, GENTIAN, WILD ROSE” – write these four words in a notebook for 51 times.

Explanation

For a person who does not have the guts to ask for what he needs or desires: CENTAURY

Clinging and being possessive: CHICORY

Not to be disappointed: GENTIAN

To accept what happens: WILD ROSE

Peaceful Visit

Anita

You asked me to chant “AGRIMONY HEATHER WATER VIOLET HOLLY HORNBEAM” when I was about to visit my mother’s place, expecting some issues with some of my family members.

Thanks for your advice my visit to my mother’s house was peaceful.

I did the chanting throughout my visit.

THANKS ONCE AGAIN it was only because of your timely advice I could come back without any drama and confrontation from my brother and his wife. I am really blessed to have come in contact with you.

Naran

The Bach Flower Remedy Agrimony is a peace-maker.

To know more about Agrimony, check out this link: http://theflowerangels.wordpress.com/2013/07/04/the-peacemaker/

Draw Your Luck

Rama
I have applied for a 2 BHK flat. The draw will be held on 18th of this month.

What should I chant so that my name comes in the draw for allotment?

I do not own a house yet. I am staying on rent.

Naran

Chant “GORSE, CLEMATIS”

Rama
I wanted to share a moment of joy which came in my life because of your blessings.

As told I chanted “Gorse, Clematis” sincerely and my name has come in the draw.

I can’t explain how elated I am feeling. I have cherished this dream for the past 18 years and only with your blessing my dream has come true.

My whole family chants the Switch Words you had suggested from time to time whenever I had sought your guidance. We are getting good results.

Thanks for coming into our life.

Explanation

Gorse:  to convert hopeless situations into hopeful ones

Clematis: to convert dreams into reality

This combination helped somebody get a Red-Carpet Welcome in Singapore: https://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2010/03/28/i-received-a-red-carpet-welcome/

Whenever you visit temples or do a pilgrimage you can use this combination: https://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2010/12/17/bach-flower-remedies-combinations-discussed-at-raj-bhavan-meeting/

My married life is like living in a hostel

My married life is like a hostel life. We two are living like roommates only. He is taking food, and bathing at his mother’s home, coming only in the late evening after finishing all his routines. He is not willing to go out with me.

We two are working and have problems in money matters.

In-laws also wanted to keep him with them at all times. He is the third son. All others in family are well attached to their families blessed with all boons and children. But I am living like sanyasi and no children after seven years of marriage. Not all are co-operating even for small things also. Undergoing treatment and that too not successful till date.

Born in a poor temple’s priest family and after many struggles and hard work, completed my graduation and currently earning a small income monthly. But in-laws need my money fully and problem created there and we came separately. After that also they are begging for money from my husband.

He believes them and not trusting me. I am doing and thinking everything for our welfare only. But he does not understand me. Not going out with me, but willing to go with others.

I am working from my young age. So I don’t want to quit the job and be idle. But in a joint-family I have to give all money to them.

We are separate now but my life is like a sanyasi life.

All my relations are coming with their partners. But I am going alone to all functions. He is not at all willing to come out with me.

Gone through your site and all mantras are well, good and useful.

I am a devotee of Shridi Sai Baba and I trust the reply given by you is the remedy given by Guru Shridi Sai. Jai Sairam. Sainath Maharaj Ki Jai.

Naran

Throughout our life, we hunt for love, needing caring and affection from others. When we don’t get it, we fail to understand that we are demanding more and more from a person who does not have what we want. Instead, we hang on to him.

Our demand annoys him and he distances himself away. The paradox is he married you with the intention that you would give him love. There is an unconscious decision is your life before birth that you will always give love to your husband without any expectation. Now instead of giving, you want to receive. That is why you are not getting.

Instead of trying to get, become a giver. That is why you are named Someshwari.

Give love even when there is no receiving.

Giving love without expecting to receive will make you magnanimous.

Thank every person and every event in your life daily.

Meditate on Sai Baba, reminding yourself of his anecdotes of Divine love and visualize his love filling up your heart. Then from your heart let his love flow through your hands to your husband and his family.

Do this daily. Thank them. Pray for them.

Chant the following: “CHICORY, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER FIND DIVINE LOVE WITH”.

Chant this as many times as possible.

Faith and Endurance will carry us forward.

Write this in a paper and keep it under the pillow.

Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others

Mallika

I got married before seven years. Child birth is getting delayed because of problem with my husband. He is not having sufficient counting to give birth to a child. Undergoing treatment but thousands of obstacles in it. Taking tablet but discontinuing it. Main reason is my in-laws.

We are living separately due to money matters. I don’t want to take legal action because I am from a middle class family and having less support from my brother and father. I am earning for my livelihood but in-laws require all money from me. Hence we came separate. 

After that also they require share from my husband. Spoiling my family life. Hence I am earning. Again tomorrow he is consulting a doctor. No obstacles should occur again due to relations. He is a temple priest and doing pooja to lord Vinayaga. Ganapathy is his favorite god. But still obstacles and no success.

He is worrying about parents, brother, sister and all relations but not about wife. But I want his entire love and affection because I have no support other than him.

Naran

Chant “CHICORY, WALNUT, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER DIVINE” 200 times over a glass of water and drink it.

How is your relationship with your parents? Do you really love them?

Have you ever said to your father, “My dear father I love you from my heart.” Have you ever repaid your father’s love? Did you ever communicate with him with open heart? You are his semen.

Have you ever thought of acknowledging your mother’s love and affection? She is your first nurturer? The first food in your blood is her blood. She bore and endured all the pains for your sake. The first smile – the first energy of love – you received in this world is hers. Prostrate to her. Say, “My dear mother I love you. You are the source of my love. You are the source of all my relationships.”

Do this for 21 days. If you think it uncomfortable do it mentally.

Your husband is a priest in Ganesh temple. You become like Lord Ganesha in respecting your parents.

Mallika

Thanks for your prompt and good response.

Some bitter relationship I have with my father. You are right. He has given me everything. But, after my schooling I am not able to continue my studies in college due to his financial capacity. So I was compelled to work and continue my studies through correspondence.

 I obeyed, worked and completed my graduation. I also learnt computer courses, typing, shorthand etc., during my working. But all the talents developed by them only because in school days we were doing milk business.

So, dual role started at the age of 12 and started earning money at that age. But I was having a feeling that they did not send me to college. But today I am a good position equal to those who are educated in college.

Today, my mother is not alive. But she has given me everything to face challenges and lead a decent life in the society. Before marriage also I was giving my earnings to my mother only. Not even a single paisa to my father. Now I realize the mistakes done by me. I will start respecting my father and get his blessings.

Please suggest remedies to get her blessings. Now my mind is clear.

I really thank you for making realize my mistakes and the way you answer is wonderful.

God has sent you to all of us like me who are suffering mentally in their hearts. You are rendering wonderful services to mankind. Thanks a million to you and your team.

Naran

Do it mentally to your mother.

Abundant Support from Family and Flowers

Guru Mangala

My domestic help Anu cried saying that she has been abandoned with her child, by her husband a few years ago.

She is trying to earn and educate the boy. She lives with her poor mother, brother and sister-in-law. The sister-in-law is unhappy that this girl is being sheltered here and supported by the brother. This gives chance for lots of infighting between husband and wife. Anu feels guilty that she is the cause of her dear brother’s suffering. 

She saw me giving Bach flower remedy to my mother and asked me what that is. I told her how it works. She requested me for some flowers for herself. 

I gave her RESCUE REMEDY, PINE, CENTAURY, STAR OF BETHLEHEM, CHICORY, WHITE CHESTNUT and HONEY SUCKLE with WALNUT. 

Reasons: guilt (Pine), feeling used (Centaury), trauma/ pain (Star of Bethlehem), unable to let go/ clinging to brother (Chicory, Walnut), thoughts which haunt day and night (White chestnut) and regret of the past (Honey Suckle). 

Next morning she came smiling and said she was feeling confident that the troubles will be overcome. But within a day the sister-in-law created a huge fight and walked out of the house with her parents.  Anu was so sad and kept saying “this is all because of me.” I gave her Larch.   I gave her SWEET CHESTNUT to place in the NE corner of the room, and to sprinkle CRAB APPLE and WALNUT around the house. 

For the mother I gave RED CHESTNUT and WILLOW.

For the brother, I gave OAK, CHICORY and WALNUT.

I asked Anu to do forgiveness and told her mother also to keep forgiving the daughter-in-law.

She came running next morning, “Amma, the house is peaceful.  My sister-in-law returned and apologized to my brother. She actually fell at his feet and said she would never again fight over me.  I have also apologized to her.  We are a happy family now”.

Thank the flowers. 

Since that day, nearly 2 months ago, Anu is now happily earning extra money by working in a courier company along with my household, her son is admitted to UKG and sister-in-law helps with the boy’s studies and looks after him. There is respect for Anu and all is well.

 I am ever grateful to Naran and to the Flowers for the joy they bring to so many families. 

Anu is the local advertiser of flower power in Kanchipuram!!!  I have many people seeking   remedies.

Resentment Created an Accident

Anger Eraser Part I

An accident that was blessing in disguise

Everybody will have at least one major turning point in their life, sometimes more than one. I had one too in the form of an accident, in 2005.

Without going to the details of the accident, I wanted to share my experiences, related to my healing during that period.

Minor diseases in plenty

Post-accident I was having severe cold, cough, dizziness’ and other minor ailments. The only issue is that after fixing one, I will get another. For example, if I took some remedies to fix my cold, immediately after fixing it, I will get dizziness. Then I will be immobile for two hours.

Once that is fixed soon after that, I will get dry cough and so on. This was proving quite annoying and uncomfortable for me. I was on sick leave for more than a month and nothing seems to be improving.

Resentment about my family members

One day on a flash, I told Naran that I have a deep resentment about my family members and I consider them unfair in relation with me.

Whether they are unfair or not or whether I am fair in saying doesn’t matter here. The point of the matter is that I have resentment and that has to be fixed.

So Balakumar asked me to take the Bach Flower Remedy WILLOW whenever I feel angry about my people. As soon as I started taking it, all my episodes of the diseases stopped to a greater extent. They did come, but at a minor scale.

Moral of the story

I need to be healed irrespective of my life situation to fix the problems – physical or social. What is required here is that I need to fix my mental state.

I did that. And it changed my life a lot.

Please refer this link to read about the second article in the series – “Remove My Angry Instinct – Anger Eraser Part II”: http://wp.me/ptUKY-6D

How to Use Bach Flower Remedies

Chanting the Bach Flower Remedies

Chanting the flower name means is that we had surrendered to the flowers, as we don’t know what else to do. So it works for the same reason. In addition, we release the emotions and thoughts with help of flowers as otherwise whatever we think will happen.

There are no side-effects, as see even chanting the flower works. They are like switch words and influence the subconscious mind. Though the pills are a medium through which the flowers do their work and they give a different sort of experience.

Chanting for others

Chanting works even if the concerned person who needs healing doesn’t do it. May be after seeing the results, next time when they face a similar situation they might say “your chanting has helped me last time. So please do this time too!” So chant for others. It’s a gift for them.

Let us see an example. Somebody living in a different town and they are feeling homesick. You may chant HONEY SUCKLE and it will work as their feelings are projection of yours. You are healed and they are then healed too. Also we are all one and the same and that’s why it is working – thus as a projection we bring people in our lives, who are similar to or complement our nature.

Using the Circle Technique

Take a piece of paper and write the name of the person within a circle. Around the circle write the name of the flower and draw a circle over it. If there are additional flowers, have a concentric circle for each of them. This distance healing method is very effective.

A case history

For vomiting during pregnancy, give SCLERANTHUS. The daughter-law of a student of Naran lives in US. The lady followed the circle method and it healed her daughter-in-law.

If you have trust and faith in Bach flowers, it will work wonders. Nature is ready to helps us in the form of flowers. Of course, it is one of the multiple ways to heal.

Heal people who are living with you

Take a glass of water cover with right hand and chant the flower names. Give the water to them. It will work, even if the concerned person doesn’t believe in Bach Flower Therapy, as it is not a belief based therapy.

You may find no harmony in your family. Put 10 to 15 pills of Harmony pack in the common drinking water. The fight will disappear. Your family members might wonder how come the fight is not there anymore. Please note here, that disharmony within us has resulted in lack of harmony within the family. Of course, we don’t find the fault with us, but find it only on others!!!

How does taking remedies by us impact others in our lives

We take different avatars during the day – BEECH avatar in the morning, WILLOW avatar in the afternoon and so on. At the most we take any of the 38 avatars identified by Edward Bach.

We invite people of a specific nature. Let us say that we are CENTAURY we might invite CHICORY bosses. It like a formula X-1 = Y+1, where X denotes Centaury and Y denotes manipulating boss. So when our Centaury nature changes, then the bosses need to change too. That’s how flower remedies work with us and others around us.

Healing the World

There are so many natural calamities happening in the world. On a regular basis to heal them, chant “SWEET CHESTNUT WILD ROSE CHESTNUT BUD” 5 to 10 minutes. Or think about the nature or the world and chant. This is what we can give back to the world.

Bach Flower Remedies completes the healing process

Bach Flower Remedies will work, though we can’t say it can work alone. It has to be used in complement with other types of healing, as it’s not a Samaya Sanjeevani (a cure for all). Though it does one thing – it completes the healing process. Thus, it doesn’t pre-suppose other healing options.

Remedy means help and not a cure. Through Bach flowers, you are helping the person. There are instances even one dosage has changed a person completely.

Flowers are Life-Changers

Each and every flower gives a unique experience. To gain that, do the following: take one flower remedy 3 times a day for 7 days, listen to the conversations that are happening around you, whom we meet and our life incidents. You will learn something that will change your life forever!!!