My married life is like living in a hostel

My married life is like a hostel life. We two are living like roommates only. He is taking food, and bathing at his mother’s home, coming only in the late evening after finishing all his routines. He is not willing to go out with me.

We two are working and have problems in money matters.

In-laws also wanted to keep him with them at all times. He is the third son. All others in family are well attached to their families blessed with all boons and children. But I am living like sanyasi and no children after seven years of marriage. Not all are co-operating even for small things also. Undergoing treatment and that too not successful till date.

Born in a poor temple’s priest family and after many struggles and hard work, completed my graduation and currently earning a small income monthly. But in-laws need my money fully and problem created there and we came separately. After that also they are begging for money from my husband.

He believes them and not trusting me. I am doing and thinking everything for our welfare only. But he does not understand me. Not going out with me, but willing to go with others.

I am working from my young age. So I don’t want to quit the job and be idle. But in a joint-family I have to give all money to them.

We are separate now but my life is like a sanyasi life.

All my relations are coming with their partners. But I am going alone to all functions. He is not at all willing to come out with me.

Gone through your site and all mantras are well, good and useful.

I am a devotee of Shridi Sai Baba and I trust the reply given by you is the remedy given by Guru Shridi Sai. Jai Sairam. Sainath Maharaj Ki Jai.

Naran

Throughout our life, we hunt for love, needing caring and affection from others. When we don’t get it, we fail to understand that we are demanding more and more from a person who does not have what we want. Instead, we hang on to him.

Our demand annoys him and he distances himself away. The paradox is he married you with the intention that you would give him love. There is an unconscious decision is your life before birth that you will always give love to your husband without any expectation. Now instead of giving, you want to receive. That is why you are not getting.

Instead of trying to get, become a giver. That is why you are named Someshwari.

Give love even when there is no receiving.

Giving love without expecting to receive will make you magnanimous.

Thank every person and every event in your life daily.

Meditate on Sai Baba, reminding yourself of his anecdotes of Divine love and visualize his love filling up your heart. Then from your heart let his love flow through your hands to your husband and his family.

Do this daily. Thank them. Pray for them.

Chant the following: “CHICORY, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER FIND DIVINE LOVE WITH”.

Chant this as many times as possible.

Faith and Endurance will carry us forward.

Write this in a paper and keep it under the pillow.

Abundant Support from Family and Flowers

Guru Mangala

My domestic help Anu cried saying that she has been abandoned with her child, by her husband a few years ago.

She is trying to earn and educate the boy. She lives with her poor mother, brother and sister-in-law. The sister-in-law is unhappy that this girl is being sheltered here and supported by the brother. This gives chance for lots of infighting between husband and wife. Anu feels guilty that she is the cause of her dear brother’s suffering. 

She saw me giving Bach flower remedy to my mother and asked me what that is. I told her how it works. She requested me for some flowers for herself. 

I gave her RESCUE REMEDY, PINE, CENTAURY, STAR OF BETHLEHEM, CHICORY, WHITE CHESTNUT and HONEY SUCKLE with WALNUT. 

Reasons: guilt (Pine), feeling used (Centaury), trauma/ pain (Star of Bethlehem), unable to let go/ clinging to brother (Chicory, Walnut), thoughts which haunt day and night (White chestnut) and regret of the past (Honey Suckle). 

Next morning she came smiling and said she was feeling confident that the troubles will be overcome. But within a day the sister-in-law created a huge fight and walked out of the house with her parents.  Anu was so sad and kept saying “this is all because of me.” I gave her Larch.   I gave her SWEET CHESTNUT to place in the NE corner of the room, and to sprinkle CRAB APPLE and WALNUT around the house. 

For the mother I gave RED CHESTNUT and WILLOW.

For the brother, I gave OAK, CHICORY and WALNUT.

I asked Anu to do forgiveness and told her mother also to keep forgiving the daughter-in-law.

She came running next morning, “Amma, the house is peaceful.  My sister-in-law returned and apologized to my brother. She actually fell at his feet and said she would never again fight over me.  I have also apologized to her.  We are a happy family now”.

Thank the flowers. 

Since that day, nearly 2 months ago, Anu is now happily earning extra money by working in a courier company along with my household, her son is admitted to UKG and sister-in-law helps with the boy’s studies and looks after him. There is respect for Anu and all is well.

 I am ever grateful to Naran and to the Flowers for the joy they bring to so many families. 

Anu is the local advertiser of flower power in Kanchipuram!!!  I have many people seeking   remedies.

Resentment Created an Accident

Anger Eraser Part I

An accident that was blessing in disguise

Everybody will have at least one major turning point in their life, sometimes more than one. I had one too in the form of an accident, in 2005.

Without going to the details of the accident, I wanted to share my experiences, related to my healing during that period.

Minor diseases in plenty

Post-accident I was having severe cold, cough, dizziness’ and other minor ailments. The only issue is that after fixing one, I will get another. For example, if I took some remedies to fix my cold, immediately after fixing it, I will get dizziness. Then I will be immobile for two hours.

Once that is fixed soon after that, I will get dry cough and so on. This was proving quite annoying and uncomfortable for me. I was on sick leave for more than a month and nothing seems to be improving.

Resentment about my family members

One day on a flash, I told Naran that I have a deep resentment about my family members and I consider them unfair in relation with me.

Whether they are unfair or not or whether I am fair in saying doesn’t matter here. The point of the matter is that I have resentment and that has to be fixed.

So Balakumar asked me to take the Bach Flower Remedy WILLOW whenever I feel angry about my people. As soon as I started taking it, all my episodes of the diseases stopped to a greater extent. They did come, but at a minor scale.

Moral of the story

I need to be healed irrespective of my life situation to fix the problems – physical or social. What is required here is that I need to fix my mental state.

I did that. And it changed my life a lot.

Please refer this link to read about the second article in the series – “Remove My Angry Instinct – Anger Eraser Part II”: http://wp.me/ptUKY-6D