My married life is like living in a hostel

My married life is like a hostel life. We two are living like roommates only. He is taking food, and bathing at his mother’s home, coming only in the late evening after finishing all his routines. He is not willing to go out with me.

We two are working and have problems in money matters.

In-laws also wanted to keep him with them at all times. He is the third son. All others in family are well attached to their families blessed with all boons and children. But I am living like sanyasi and no children after seven years of marriage. Not all are co-operating even for small things also. Undergoing treatment and that too not successful till date.

Born in a poor temple’s priest family and after many struggles and hard work, completed my graduation and currently earning a small income monthly. But in-laws need my money fully and problem created there and we came separately. After that also they are begging for money from my husband.

He believes them and not trusting me. I am doing and thinking everything for our welfare only. But he does not understand me. Not going out with me, but willing to go with others.

I am working from my young age. So I don’t want to quit the job and be idle. But in a joint-family I have to give all money to them.

We are separate now but my life is like a sanyasi life.

All my relations are coming with their partners. But I am going alone to all functions. He is not at all willing to come out with me.

Gone through your site and all mantras are well, good and useful.

I am a devotee of Shridi Sai Baba and I trust the reply given by you is the remedy given by Guru Shridi Sai. Jai Sairam. Sainath Maharaj Ki Jai.

Naran

Throughout our life, we hunt for love, needing caring and affection from others. When we don’t get it, we fail to understand that we are demanding more and more from a person who does not have what we want. Instead, we hang on to him.

Our demand annoys him and he distances himself away. The paradox is he married you with the intention that you would give him love. There is an unconscious decision is your life before birth that you will always give love to your husband without any expectation. Now instead of giving, you want to receive. That is why you are not getting.

Instead of trying to get, become a giver. That is why you are named Someshwari.

Give love even when there is no receiving.

Giving love without expecting to receive will make you magnanimous.

Thank every person and every event in your life daily.

Meditate on Sai Baba, reminding yourself of his anecdotes of Divine love and visualize his love filling up your heart. Then from your heart let his love flow through your hands to your husband and his family.

Do this daily. Thank them. Pray for them.

Chant the following: “CHICORY, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER FIND DIVINE LOVE WITH”.

Chant this as many times as possible.

Faith and Endurance will carry us forward.

Write this in a paper and keep it under the pillow.

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Emergency Remedies That Can Save Lives

Surgery, Bleeding, Coma and Other Disasters waiting to happen

For any emergency situation, Bach Flower Rescue Remedy is the remedy. This will always help the patient.

Two days before the surgery, you will be admitted in the hospital; they will do all checkups; start taking Rescue Remedy then.

This is useful to get the patients out of coma.

Bleeding will stop if you splash Rescue Remedy water over the bleeding or intake the pills of Rescue Remedy.

Whenever a function is organized, you don’t want any children to fall and be in the hospital. In western corner of the house (or the hall) if you put two to three pills of Rescue Remedy in a glass of tumbler, no untoward incident will happen to children.

Anyway I am going to die, why bother with medicines

We feel apathetic and not interested in life. We have no grief. As apathy is emotionless state. “Our whole family has diabetes, so I can’t do anything it’s in my genes”. Give Wild Rose to them. They will develop enthusiasm and jest for life, which crucial for anybody to be alive in an emergency situation.

Lost the motivation to live – a Case history

A 60-year old lady was admitted in a hospital. After few days, she stopped taking medicines and stopped eating food as well, complaining that she is going to die anyway. Her son put Bach Flower Remedy Wild Rose pills in her drinking bottle. Within few days, she became normal. She started taking the medicines and was discharged within a week. Her son still thinks this remedy has saved his mother.

A Deadly Shock

• For mental as well as physical shock
• You fell down from your bike and get a physical trauma.
• The surgical wound will be healed faster especially for diabetes patients.

Riteful Performance – a Case History

Who will perform the rites, the relatives asked? The son of the deceased is less than 10 years old and thus too young to perform.

After taking the Bach Flower Star of Bethlehem remedy in the form of drinking water (they didn’t know that they took it), the child went up to the relatives. He convinced them by saying, “I am aware that my father is dead. It’s my duty to perform my rites. My father will be happy. Please allow me”.

Such an act of courage he could exhibit thanks to Star of Bethlehem mixed in the drinking water.

Terror Situations

For unknown fear or unspecific fear, Bach Flower Aspen is the remedy. Whenever you go to a railway station or airport, if you are afraid that there might be a bomb blast, or a terrorist attack, and have a wild imagination about the probable terror incidents, then chant Aspen.  You will safely reach your destination.

Admission in an Emergency Ward

If anybody – close friends or relatives, is admitted in the hospital we will get restless. In this case Red Chestnut and Rescue Remedy will help you to come out of your worries.

If a person is admitted in the ICU, chant Rescue Remedy and Red Chestnut. They will be released immediately and placed in the normal ward. Even if they don’t get released immediately, it can help the patient get relieved from ICU faster. If you can go into ICU keep the paper with the name Rescue Remedy written under the pillow of the patient.

Touching the panic button easily

Even when you watch an accident in a TV, you go into terror and panic state. This indicates Rock Rose. You need to take Bach Flower Remedy Rock Rose in such situations, which is part of the Rescue Remedy. Therefore, you can take Bach Flower Rescue Remedy too.

A hopeless case

Beyond hopeless state and one comes to a conclusion, ‘God alone can help me’. They have given it up. For example, doctors had given up and say that the patient will be alive only for 24 hrs. In such a situation, a patient will come out of danger if he is prescribed Bach Flower Remedy Sweet Chestnut. Write the patient’s name and circle it with Sweet Chestnut and Rescue Remedy.

Bach Flower Remedies for Pregnancy

Mimulus

During entire period of pregnancy, Mimulus can be used, for there will be a scan every three months. Fear of scan; fear of being reported thyroid problem; “What if the doctor says something bad about the position of foetus?” These fearful thoughts can be healed by Mimulus.

The fortune part is Mimulus can minimise any expenditure. Normal delivery will cost less than caesarean delivery. In other words, Mimulus throughout pregnancy will pave for normal delivery!

Wherever there is specific fear, Mimulus has to be there to help you.

Red Chestnut

During development of foetus, the mother will worry, “Will my child’s brain will be well developed? Will its health be good? Will the child be without any problem?” Through out pregnancy Red Chestnut has to be given.

Rescue Remedy

At the time of delivery, pain is intensive. The pregnant women can chant Rescue Remedy. Others close to her have to take Rescue Remedy and Red Chestnut. Write the name of the patient and circle it with Rescue Remedy, as because pregnant women can’t chant it, for pain will be too much then. Be sure the delivery will be normal and smooth.

Agrimony

During 8th month of pregnancy, the lady will be affected by restless leg syndrome. Agrimony and Impatiens can heal it.

Scleranthus

It’s a good remedy for nausea and vomiting, especially during the 3rd month. 9th month starting, the doctor will fix up the date for delivery. As the date gets near we get impatient (Impatiens). Scleranthus person will postpone, while an Impatiens would like to have the delivery immediately. Therefore, Scleranthus and Impatiens is a good combination during the last stages of pregnancy, to have the delivery on time.

Cerato and Chestnut Bud

To beget intelligent children, to make sure the IQ of the child is good, flower remedies is the best choice. One can listen to the Bach Flower Meditation CD by Naran S Balakumar.

Walnut

During entire period of pregnancy every month is a transition. Therefore, Walnut is the remedy.

Olive

If there is total physical exhaustion

Harmony at Home

If during pregnancy, peaceful harmonious atmosphere is to be there at home, for which Beech Willow, Agrimony, and Cherry Plum can be helpful.

Special Remedies for Pregnancy

Let Eshwar Protect

This is a combination to be given throughout the pregnancy: Elm, Sweet Chestnut, Hornbeam, Walnut, Aspen and Red chestnut.

Elm: Person has to manage oneself. It expands the mental ability and physical vitality of the mother. Sweet Chestnut: for the divine grace if a child has to be born safely. Hornbeam: continuous movement; Walnut: for transition. Aspen whatever unknown fear one has. Most of the time, the pregnant woman can not figure out the fear. Red Chestnut: concern for the growing baby.

The first letter of each of the remedies if coined together will form the name, ‘ESHWAR’. If there is a grace of Eshwar – Lord Siva, everything will go on well.

Fifth Month of Pregnancy

Chicory: foetus will start feeling the touch of the mother at the end of the 5th month. Either you can chant all the flower names or listen to Bach Flower Remedy meditation CD. As per Ayurveda, mind starts developing from 5th month of pregnancy. Thanks to flowers, the mind of children will develop well and will be able to understand better. In addition, so many mental faculties will develop better in the child.

Sixth Month of Pregnancy

IQ and brain development: Oak, Chestnut Bud, Cerato, Hornbeam, Walnut and Clematis. For 5 minutes, chant the remedies and keep the hands on the belly (womb). This will help in both right and left brain development and the child will be highly intelligent.

From the 8th month onwards

Add Gentian and Hornbeam to the above combination. Add gentian to combination so that there is no regression in the foetus. Around 8th month, the mother will not be able to sleep properly and will be tossing in the bed – Scleranthus is the remedy. When dates are announced, Scleranthus and Impatiens. Whenever the pregnant women go for checkups, Mimulus has to be given. For easy and natural delivery: bio-26 – this Bio salt is available in homeopathy shops. From the 4^th month onwards, four tablets, three times a day.

Ninth Month

The mother-to-be is admitted in the hospital. Pain will increase. Give her Rescue Remedy. As her parents can’t bear their daughter cry, give them Rescue Remedy with Red Chestnut.

After Delivery

White Chestnut and Walnut has to be given to the mother. 1^st or 2^nd day breast feeding will be difficult – Elm and Chestnut Bud. After the delivery, in the bathing water, add Walnut and Star of Bethlehem (need not be given orally to child) or you can chant them to baby’s ears. After 15 days, it can be given orally. For child and mother, if there is fluid in the ear, give them Heather and Crab Apple.